I was listening to Michael Neill talking to Dr George Pransky who teaches about the Three Principles of which I have spoken previously. The most important principle that they were talking about, to me, was that our thinking creates our world for us. George calls our thoughts a paintbrush. In other words we fluidly create our external world by what we are thinking. Interestingly enough I also see it coming through in A Course in Miracles too. Certainly it was part of the One Command work I studied last year as well. Our thoughts and, thus beliefs are so powerful.
I really like this idea, and it is supremely useful in coaching. If you go into a coaching or counselling session with a fixed idea, the first thing that the coach would do (hopefully) would try to see things from your point of view. Only once they had done that could they point out to you that there were other ways of thinking about or seeing an issue. I’ll give the example I that Michael and George were talking about on the subject of productivity.
One of George’s clients was a salesman and he made an enormous amount of phone calls (cold calls) with very little in the way of sales at the end of them. When probed, the salesman admitted that he was very focused on himself during the client interactions, wondering whether they likes him, would they buy the product, etc. George pointed this out to him and suggested that he think about how he could do it differently, maybe see things from the client’s point of view rather than his own. The long and short of the story was that George’s client took his suggestion on board, even though he thought it was too easy, and found that when he got to know his prospects and their concerns his sales figures went up.
Marianne Williamson has a nice phrase that comes from her work with A Course in Miracles “I am willing to see this differently”. Obviously in the heat of an problem with another person this is unlikely to come up as a solution unless you are a meditator and can step back from your feelings in the moment. It takes time and diligence to be able to see what’s actually going on inside your mind under such circumstances, but it is something to work towards and a very practical outcome of meditation and contemplation exercises.
I have a lot of time at the moment to learn new things and I am getting a totally new take on how to understand other people (something that has always been important to me). I love the idea of understanding what is going on in someone’s mind about an issue in order to help them see another way. This comes through in all my work, in the Akashic Record work and in the coaching/counselling I do. It is a way of making a soul to soul connection with another person which is a part of my work that I really love.
What could you think differently about this week? And if you did, what could change for you?